Race

I'm back... a lil wide eyed today..

I got some rest last night...So much I had the urge to call in today..

But I didn't...

And of course...my day gives me something to blog about...

Interracial relationships...First off I would like to say that the part of the CNN documentary "Black in America" or whatever it was called..*I have been hearing a lot of negative comments about it* was the part focused on interracial relationships..

The woman they had one there..black and was married to a white man. They had to beautiful biracial children. The wife said that his family had made remarks about how they couldn't believe that he had black children. The husband said that the family deeply regrets those comments.

I'm sure there is a lot of uneasiness when they have family gatherings..

Being racist is taught..

It starts from home..

You know how you always walk up on stuff exactly at the moment that you need to?..

Well today I was going to get milk out of our fridge in the classroom..and the lil vanilla girl said "White people go first, and black people go last"...

@ the table there were two white kids and two black kids..

I couldn't believe my ears..

I said "What did you say?" She looked surprised..

She said that she didn't know.

I asked the other kids what she said..and of course they told me..

I was speechless..

Usually I would issue a timeout or something..

But all I could do was walk away and shake my head... glad that lil chick that made the comment goes home @ 3.

Tomorrow I am going to talk to her...

So..I get home..and my bff..*K* who lives in MI..Who I miss very much called me.

To get to the nitty gritty...

She is Korean..her man is white..

She was adopted by two white people..so she basically is white..

She said " I have never had anyone point my race out like this before"

Her boyfriends sister apparently has add and is bipolar *She doesn't know about me by the way* so she is just going on about this and that.. How she beats her mom. She doesn't handle social situations well because she blurts out information that no one wants to hear like "I am so horny I haven't had sex in forrrever"..*K* told me this..She apparently pushes everyone away...

The sister is 16. The youngest out of her brothers and sisters.

And apparently she likes to point out the fact that *K* is Asian.

She always calls her "Hey asian".. or one time she was reading a book, and the sister said "I didn't know Asians read"..WTF..

So I decide while talking to *K* to go to lil sis's myspace..I couldn't cuz it's blocked..

I signed in under *K* and I saw it.. She is a cute lil girl. But she is very disrespectful. She has captions under *K*'s pictures like "Another Asian :)".. And "Gay, she's Asian"..What the hell..

And her brother *K*'s boyfriend didn't do much about the situation.

His reaction was we all make fun of you..a lil bit.. Hell no..

I have had my share of interracial relationships..

And a share of them..their families weren't too thrilled that I was "colored'..

I loved some vanilla..but one thing that I realized that we would always have to deal with race issues.
I always felt self conscious in the presence of their families.

So if this would have happened to me..

It would have went something like this...

Sister: "Hey Nigger"

Me: First off all depending on the emotion I pick..

I could cry.. I could punch her in the face..I could walk away..

But I know one thing..if my man didn't stand up for me and say that is in no way tolerated..then I would bounce..hurt feelings and all..

Because race is something that people cannot change...


From what she has been telling me..It sounds like she is not happy. I think they've been together for four years..and of course love tends to fizzle..and people stay because they are comfortable, and afraid to try anything new. Afraid of the void that they will feel without that person. So I told her not to settle just because she has been there so long. She wants to get married, but I don't know if it's just for the sake of saying that shes married. She had this time limit thing..well the time has gone and past..He didn't ask her yet.. I told her that she needs to check the race issue with his family, or that she would be hurting forever..


That's it..

Thanks ya'll for checking on me..

Hope ya'll have a happy Friday...