Divorce..

Divorce….I believe that it can be wrong to get a divorce in certain situations, and right in others. It all just depends on the circumstances that led up to the couple feeling like divorce may be the right answer. I was recently talking to one of my friends who knew this couple who just finalized their divorce. She told me that the couple had been together for five years. Three of which they spent dating. They met when the guy's dad was dying of cancer. Of course when you are going through an ordeal such as losing a parent, you almost are a different person. He was laid back at that time, and so was she. That was one of the factors that made them feel compatible. Yet, compatibility was what tore their relationship apart. When the guy began to heal from the death of his father, he began to want to do things again. Hanging out with his buddies, going to baseball games, and bars began to be something he wanted to enjoy with his wife. When he would ask for her company she would simply not go or roll her eyes and tag along with her attitude just because he may have made a big deal out of her joining him. My friend and I are positive that there are many other factors that came into play that led to them getting a divorce. But the main reason was because they were at two different places in live at the wrong time.
Situations like that leave me with this question….What are good enough reasons for divorce? I think those of you who read this need to ponder this same question. Would you leave your spouse if they suddenly wanted to become a party animal and wanted you to join them? Would you leave your spouse if they gained tons of weight? Would you leave your spouse if they were diagnosed with a mental illness (ex: Depression, Schizophrenia, Bipolar?) Mental illness is manageable with the right tools, but what if it were something more serious like your spouse got into a car accident and became a quadriplegic and blind? Would you stay? If so would it be for the right reason. Or would it because you felt obligated?
To answer my own question…I believe marriage is sacred. When I do get married I want it to be forever. Until he picks out my casket, and until I lower him into the ground. Hypothetically, if I was married and my husband got into a car accident and was gravely disabled then I would be there right by his side helping him through it. Unless he treated me like shit, then I would push his ass over in a tub just like the wife in "Diary of a Mad Black Woman." If that husband and wife from paragraph one couldn't stay together just because they had timing differences, what will they be able to endure in their next relationships?