Okay I am so tired. But I need to write so here we go.
My mom is from Michigan, but she's taking this extended vacation away from home. She came here, went to the Bahamas last week, and she is now back at mi casa.
On the last visit I didn't tell ya'll that she opened my mail. She committed a federal offense in my own house. I was totally pissed. I felt totally violated. I am trying to keep certain things quite in my life, and she goes searching for shit. Not to mention I found 2 notebooks that I forgot to hide..Oops..
Anyway she is totally embarrassing. Has been my whole life. Not just by her outward appearance, because I must say at one time my mother was drop dead. Couldn't tell by looking now, and she has the power to change that. One thing I know is I will not be anything like her. At least health wise and what not. So my friend Allison comes over with her friend Ashley. *We say we are a backwards Oreo* I'm the brown filling* We went into the bathroom because I was getting ready to attempt to flat iron my hair. We were in there just talking for a few minutes before my mom comes and is like " Do you want me to go outside?" My reaction is like for what. She said to use the bathroom. Of course we exited. And my girl said that she saw my mom go outside. So she went outside I guess to pee...and comes back and is like oops I wet my pants. I just shook my damn head because nothing has changed. She has always been the one to do shit like that. I want to get a profile done on her, so I can figure her out totally. It's like she likes pity or something.
And then..I can't inform her about a lot of things about me is for the simple fact she is weird... Okay I've been recently trying to put this into a correct format that people other than me can get this..
I had a friend back in the day on my street who had cerebral palsy. Now I had been playing with the girl for sometime now..but on this one particular day as were driving past her house towards our house she goes "So your friend is crippled huh?"..and I'm like what a freaking rhetorical question? What did she expect me to say?
Oh and please don't let there be a handicapped person anywhere around her..boy she will point it out. I recall one time we were coming back from the Bahamas and we were sitting in the airport. And there was this girl..maybe 14ish with her family. She obviously had some physical and mental issues, but here goes my mom making it all obvious again. She grabs my hand and begins to thank God that her child is normal. I am like how freaking lame is this? And why does she have to do crap like that. People who have disabilities already have the shorter end of the bargain, and really don't need people pointing out the obvious. I just don't get her? My psychology people help me....What is her deal?
I love her, but she really needs to get a grip. Because mother or not, I've always been all about saying how I feel. There is a whole different story behind both of us that only we know. She and what she did to me made me who I am today. The good and the bad. I am just tired of her...HELP ME I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO CALL IT....
Sunday, June 22, 2008
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My mother opens and reads my mail too. I have a post about her opening my acceptance letter to UCF and not telling me that I was even accepted.
I can't tell you what your mom's deal is, but it seems like a psychologist of some sort would do her good. It could be a physical issue, if she hasn't always acted this way, a personality disorder, or she may be completely healthy and just craving attention.
VP-Yeah I read about that. That totally sucks.
I don't know what her deal is either. I've talked to my therapist about her and they agree that she should see someone. Even though I think she has. She got raped and molested as a child which I think has had some lasting affects on her. But her and the who people w/ disabilities hey lets point it out..really erks me.There is this little girl who likes to play w/ my daughter I think shes about 8 or so..Anyway the little girls isn't all that cute, when she saw her she's like "Aww she's so pityful"..I'm sure she knows she's not that attractive..goodness.. I am letting it go..to the point where I won't be so bothered...
TTYL Babe
Wow @ her committing a federal offense in your own home. Not cool.
For some reason, I get the feeling that your mom either doesn't want help at all or she's calling out for help without actually saying it. I doubt it's anything in the middle. She seems extreme. Neither hot nor cold. And giving that kind of person a dose of their own medicine does nobody any good.
Hope you get your answers with a quickness.
It kinda sounds like a social disorder to me. As if she can't stop from saying the things that pop into her head - no inner monologue, no way of curbing her comments and actions, or something similar. Like she can't follow the certain definitive rules of society (as in, not going outside to pee when there's a perfectly good bathroom inside, not commenting on people's disabilities, etc.)...of course, I'm not a student of psychology or anything. So who knows. There are a lot of social disorders out there.
girl ALL mothers are like this. Mine loves to say things like, "That's how you're wearing your hair?" or with the babies say things like, "Come, let me make you something to eat because I know you must be hungry..." with all that those statements imply... I just roll my eyes and keep it moving. Because that's just my mom.
What can you do when the person who annoys you is your own mom? Jeez, if I knew that answer... I love her to death, but she sure knows how to push my buttons!
i have to diagree with Jaded Nyer. not all mothers are like that. my mom wouldnt dare say anything as demeaning as that.
honestly it sounds to me like your mom doesnt have any empathy for human beings who do not meet her standards. and its sad cause i so know people like that.
also it sounds like she is attention driven. meaning that she has to have some kind of constant attention whether it be good or bad.
the only thing that i can say is that you will have to let her know that it bothers you and that you would like for her to keep some of the things she says to herself.
your an adult now and she has to respect your space. try talking to her.
anywho honey by no means am i physchology major but i have inact sense for reading people.
have a great day
Dreamy
LOL! Girly I don't know what to say, besides mommy is embarassing!
If I were you I would just call her out! Ask her why she does the things she do/why she says the things she say.....maybe she needs to be educated by her child...you never know, Good luck!
opening the mail and committing the federal offense made me laugh. i had an aunt who never seem to understand the issue of privacy when it cames to my mail.
i learned to accept my aunt. as a matter of fact i even miss the days where we'd argue over opened mail.
the jay z/mya collabo hit me right this morning.
I want to apologize before hand...
Cuz i stumbled across your blog and been jammmin to your playlist.....and i havent even got to reading your actual blog, lol .
HELLO HUNNY!
Girl, why did I read this and spit my food out, now with all due respect because this is your mother we are talking about but she is HILARIOUS, I mean, I am a criminal justice and psychology major, I would say that she is just a little "socially" challenged, I don't think she means any harm though, you know how some people are malicious, I don't believe that is the case, I believe she is just being who she is, maybe she should talk to her a bit woman to woman, if you haven't tried already, but remember she's your mom so be respectul as you can DOLL GOOD LUCK
Smooches****
Oh yeah, I mentioned you in my last post so check it out if you can!
i really don't think she understands what she's doing and its inappropriateness...be patient with her and show her grace while trying to get her help. this probably will keep her off of the defensive and be more receptive to hearing your issues with her.
I don't know ya'll. I think she know's what she is doing. But I do think she may be craving attention. I love her, but yes I think all mothers have the tendency to get on our nerves. I hope not to do the same to my daughter.
Thank's to ya'll for the advice. I will try to muster up the courage to talk to her..
***HUGS**
And O..I know I be jammin'! Come back and visit...
I love my mom to death, but I was quick to assert myself at a fairly early age. I don't disrespect her, EVER, but my respect stop being a matter of negotiation when I turned 18. I earned that shit the hard way and I still do. So the mail opening nonsense had me doing a triple-take at my computer screen. In my world that will earn you a time-out lasting anywhere from 1 to 5 years. I'm talking total isolation (new address, new phone, and possibly new job.) Yeah, I'm THAT crazy. Leastways, I used to be. But Mom and I are straight now.
Peace and Love,
Alizé (LoversA.blogspot.com)
PS: I posted a photo of my back. Lemme know if you like it
Hey Zay..I'm about to check it out.. lol @ you changing your whole shit up..lol..I've thought about it..lol
Um Zay...I done clicked on all of those blogs on ur page..quite frankly you got a lot going on..but what is it?
This is my "unlisted" blog LoversA.blogspot.com
And O..I know I be jammin'!
hahahahahahahaha.
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